Listening to Men Listening to Women

An earlier blog titled 'Listening', explored the effects of technology and multiple conversations on listening, relationships and productivity.

This week, I thought I’d share an interesting insight I gained from listening to other women and men at a Landmark Wisdom workshop I attended.

Here’s the particular scenario that I found particularly interesting:

*One man commented, in response to the following question from a woman 
‘Why do men look at other women?’ 

He said that for him, it was much like going to an art gallery.  He enjoyed and found interest and beauty in each and every piece of art.  Yet, he emphasized as he continued to answer the question, that he certainly didn't want to bring them all home with him.

And of course, we all chuckled at that!

Each man in attendance responded out loud to this question, and it was fascinating to me to notice that each one spoke with almost a sense of reverence about the female body and physique.  

It was obvious that this room of men, and they said their views were pretty much the norm for men they knew, really liked women.  

They admitted that they found women’s shapes intriguing - small, thin, large, curvy - all shapes were mentioned as being great.  They did not really discriminate, and actually said they pretty much glanced at every woman they saw.  They said it felt like they were compelled to do so naturally.

My aha moment about this was that while we women often accuse men of looking at the ‘hot women’ or the ‘younger or sexier women’ or the ‘prettier women’ -  
after openly listening to the men, I realized that if the men were actually looking at all the women, I wasn't noticing it.  

I only noticed when a man looked at a woman that I considered ‘a threat’ based on comparing her looks to mine.  That meant that I too was looking at those particular women.  All the other women that were equally noted by my accompanying male companions were dismissed by me and not even noticed.

I found this to be more an insight about me and my perceptions than about men..........……indeed, an interesting discovery.

So men..........…would you agree with the men in my workshop?  Do you look at and appreciate pretty much ALL women?  

And women........ what do you think about my insight?  any thoughts?

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