I am grateful for you being here, right now, sharing your time with me. Thank You!
To make way for a loving world, and that of course includes me, I realized I needed to give up some things. And I acknowledge to you that these are not easy for me to give up, and I have made and will continue to make some mistakes along the way.
A loving world includes forgiveness and loving oneself enough to acknowledge mistakes, take responsibility for any mess than needs to be cleaned up, and then move on to a new, happy moment.
Here's the list I came up with:
Giving up the illusion of perfection
In my case, I am choosing to Act, rather than delay in the quest for perfection. I choose to accept my best at any given moment and on any given day. Some days my best is better than on other days, and that is ok.
Giving up having to be right
I've come to recognize that 'right' is very much perception based.
Does it matter if your significant other says the wrong date or wrong name or wrong place when they are telling a story at a party? Do we really need to correct every little thing? At what cost? Which is really more important - being a kind and loving listener and partner/friend or focusing on being exact and 'right'? I choose to be loving rather than right.
Giving up trying to control others
We each have our own journeys, and while I will lovingly share my views and experiences, trying to control others just strains relationships with family, work colleagues, friends and others. I choose to Let others Be.
Giving up the need for blame
In thinking about this one, does it matter who started the argument or who made the mistake? Helping to resolve an issue without placing blame will quickly extinguish the problem. Pointing a finger and blaming escalates the situation every time. I choose happiness, my mental health and love over blame.
Giving up complaining - In my Landmark Seminar, one of our assignments was to track complaints for a week, ours and others, and take notes.
I realized with some friends, the only thing we had in common was complaining about a particular situation we shared in the past. No matter what topic I raised, eventually we would end up again complaining about the past.
I also noticed when doing the assignment that the more often I repeated the story of my 'bad experience' or 'complaint of the moment', the more agitated I became and supportive friends kept me in the complaining mode even longer, as I felt validated by their sympathy.
Complaints keep negativity and feelings of dissatisfaction fueled. I choose to de-escalate, to act to solve problems, and to move on.
I choose to turn my complaints into possibilities that support a happy, healthy and loving world!
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