As a career and life coach, my clients have a variety of needs. One thing they all have in common is a desire to cope with their everyday stress and to live their lives successfully, yet with more ease and joy.
And inevitably the conversation of pursuing a successful life leads to the barriers that currently exist to moving forward. The barriers, perceived or real, each of us deal with daily often manifest as FEARS.
Fear of the Unknown
Fear of Failure
Fear of Change
Fear of Being Trapped
Fear of Job Loss
Fear of not making enough money
So here are the Statistics from the National Institute of Mental Health:
FEAR and WORRY STATISTICS
Percent of things feared that will NEVER take place 60%
Percent of things feared that happened in the past & can't be changed 30%
Percent of things feared that are considered to be insignificant issues 90%
Percent of things feared in relation to health that will NOT happen 88%
1. Fear of public speaking - Glossophobia 74%
2. Fear of death - Necrophobia 68%
3. Fear of spiders - Arachnophobia 30.5%
4. Fear of darkness - Achluophobia, Scotophobia or Myctophobia 11%
5. Fear of heights - Acrophobia 10%
Are you as surprised as I was by the data? 90% of things we fear are insignificant, 88% of health fears won't happen and 60% of everything we fear won't happen - Great News right?
You might counter that Fears about Money and Losing a Job are definitely Significant Issues.
They may well have high significance, yet both of these issues can be systematically handled with planning, some self discipline and action. Neither are life threatening, nor are they unsolvable.
All that fretting and worrying isn't amounting to much other than frayed nerves and wasted energy and time, and here's why -
What starts as a minor worry, usually escalates if we let it and then that worry heightens to a fear and becomes an inevitable barrier. Worrying and being afraid render us Emotionally Immobile. Not only is our thinking less clear when we are in panic, worry and fear modes; what results is we become agitated and indecisive, and then predictably we become STUCK. We can't figure out what we want or how to get it or what we want to do next? We are just plain STUCK.
A simplistic example would be the following two, different adult reactions in a situation where a child fell down and is bleeding quite heavily.
One adult sees the blood and hears the crying and their own heart races, as they try to calm the child who keeps screaming and screaming and all the adult can think to do is hold the child and scream out loud themselves for help.
Same situation, and the adult's heart also pounds but their immediate reaction after quick reassurance to the child, is to assess the situation, get material to put on the bleeding wound and apply pressure, pull out their cell phone and call 911, look around and make sure no cars or other danger is in the vicinity, etc.
The first adult let the panic, worry and fear of the traumatic situation take hold, and this adult really was unable to think or act in the situation. This adult was loving, scared and STUCK.
The second adult immediately placed the mind's focus on actions, ignoring the fears. This adult was also loving and in full action.
I have been both of these adults at one time or another in my life. Having the presence of mind and ability to take action in the face of a crisis is far more empowering than being so distraught and fearful that the best you can do is scream out for someone else to help.
The same is true with your career or in your life.
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