Catching up on Facebook the other day, a friend of mine shared a quote from a book she was rereading. I jotted down the title, and since I have more time these days while being sequestered, I ordered it for my kindle. Reading Susan Jeffers book, Embracing Uncertainty, has been a good reminder during this worldwide pandemic, of some important truisms.
I’ll just share a few from the book:
Living each day with hope can be filled with suffering. What?!
While it is better to remain hopeful than despondent and full of pessimism, hope is a word and emotion loaded with expectations. Hoping is wishing, wanting and desiring in disguise. We get into the habit, as I often am, of hoping everything. Have you ever said these - I hope it won’t rain. I hope I won't be late for my phone meeting. I hope today is a good day. I hope the kids get along today. I hope there isn’t much homework. I hope I don’t mess up. I hope the line won’t be long for drive-up coffee. I hope we get to go to restaurants again soon. I hope I don’t say the wrong thing. I hope he/she likes me. And on and on - there are bound to be disappointments in these ongoing hopes and expected outcomes.
Living each day with wonder helps.
Instead of “I hope it won’t rain,” “I wonder if it will rain today.” Just writing it down feels like less pressure than the hopeful statement. Wondering allows for more than one answer. “I wonder when the current world situation will stabilize?” Wondering eliminates the innumerable opportunities for disappointment, since hopes are often shattered. Wondering brings in curiosity and a sense of adventure. Each day will happen, and sometimes it will rain and sometimes it won’t. The rain and most of the hopes mentioned above are not in our control. The emotions will come and go. The difference is that wondering allows for observation of the events and our emotions. Hoping or giving up hope, wraps us tightly in the emotions, trapping us in the drama.
Know-It-Alls close the door to knowing.
Listening to the “experts” can be a very frustrating experience, as it seems they don’t “know” much of anything. Experts can’t seem to agree either. In reality, even results of scientific research are often filled with guesses. There are many flaws in research and studies that provide the expert claims of “proof”. The know-it-alls believe their own rhetoric and claim they have all the answers.
Yet, a real expert will tell you, “To the best of our knowledge at the present time, this is the information we have. Future research may prove us wrong.” Unfortunately, the media and the public in general, often push our leaders, scientists and so-called experts to have “the right answer”, and under immense pressure our society yields self proclaimed know-it-alls. In order to succeed, we believe we have to “know” the answers. I am certainly among those who believed I had to have the answers in order to achieve and succeed.
Not-knowing is the path of wisdom.
Currently, our desire to listen to those who claim to know everything, results in our hopes and expectations controlling us. We listen to those we agree with and shut out those who have differing views. We hope for a certain action or response and seek out those who will give it to us. Polarization is the direct result. Yet, even with this controlling of expectations, there is inevitable uncertainty in our life. It may rain today or MAYBE it won’t. The stock market will go up or MAYBE it will go down. If we want to be disappointed, rigid, angry, impatient and obsessive, then we can continue letting our expectations control us. Giving MAYBE a chance whether there is a long line at Starbucks or we say the wrong thing will lead to more spontaneity, creativity, joyfulness and calm. It is a wiser path to realize that life is full of MAYBE and accept not-knowing.
When we think something will last forever, we tend to forget to focus on now.
Susan Jeffers also offers some good relationship advice that pertains to all of life. She says about love and her personal relationship - “We don’t think about forever. We think about today…..When you focus on acting lovingly today, love tends to grow and grow.”
MAYBE we can stop worrying about whether we will have enough toilet paper, be indoors and sequestered forever or hoping that life will return to “normal” again soon?
MAYBE if we wonder what we can do that is amazing TODAY, perhaps the day will present new opportunities for creativity, joy, growth and love.
MAYBE we will even become a bit wiser?
Loving Life and Living Love,
(Thanks to GLO and Grace Van Berkum for the graphic - more about Grace below)
Luckily my mom already had plenty of toilet paper, but we had a very limited supply of hand sanitizer. Scouring the usual online sources for the usual brands of hand sanitizer had me coming up empty handed. Then I recalled an online store my mom ordered from once around Christmas.
***Grove Collaborative specialize in amazing natural products.
They carry everything from hand soaps to multi-surface cleaners, to toilet paper and yes, hand sanitizer. I placed an order for this wonderful sounding hand sanitizer gel in blood orange scent with moisturizing coconut oils. I also ordered sanitizing hand wipes, some sanitizing spray cleansers, walnut scrubber sponges and a palm fiber scrubber. All the products were excellent. The Hand Sanitizer and the Palm Fiber Scrubber (for fruits and veggies, it’s the bomb) are now new favorites that I will be buying long after the quarantine is over.
***Thanks to experiencing a Cleanse and learning to incorporate smoothies in my diet with GLO’s, Grace Van Berkum, I learned about the products and companies below:
Sun Warrior Protein powder that is easily ordered on Amazon is another new favorite. Both chocolate and vanilla are excellent. This is an organic plant-based protein powder that is a great base for easy to make smoothies, that are delicious and super healthy to support the daily stress of this difficult and uncertain time.
Navitas Organics Plant-based Superfoods have added further nutrition and flavor to my daily smoothies. They still have a great 40% off sale, and I tried all of the following products: hemp hearts, Vanilla and Greens powder, chia seeds, cacao butter, cacao nibs and cacao powder, coconut palm sugar and cacao hemp organic almonds. Cacao hemp organic almonds are a new delicious favorite snack! I'll surely be buying these again.
This great company and their products are new to me, and I’m so glad that Grace pointed me in their direction. Along with Sun Warrior Protein, I’ve been boosting my mom's and my immune systems daily with these great products.
The Coronavirus doesn't stand a chance!
Trying the many, sure to please, GLO recipes that Grace has created leads to delicious success.
For me, I create a new recipe daily for Mom and me. It is fun to experiment. Below is the recipe from one of the yummy Smoothies I made:
1.5 scoops Sun Warrior Protein Vanilla
1/2 frozen banana
1 small avocado
Small Handful of spinach leaves
Good sized Handful of almonds (soaked overnight - skin still on)
1 tbsp hemp hearts
6 oz (I used almond or coconut) milk and 4-6 oz water
Blend in a Vita Mix or high powered blender. We have an Osterizer Commercial blender, and it works fine.
I’d encourage you to try these companies and products. I’m sold on the quality and service that I received and what a pleasant surprise to find new favorites at a time like this while quarantined indoors.
Be safe, stay healthy and keep social distancing - it is working!
Loving Life and Living Love,